When faced with unexpected obstacles, how do you resolve them?
This is a question I have been pondering these past few weeks, as a seemingly never ending number of obstacles have presented themselves for me to address, handle or overcome. It really has tested my inner resolve! I have found that the resultant outcomes of these unexpected situations had a great deal to do with my perspective and the filter I was viewing them through.
Everything happens for a reason, to teach us, remind us, or even reaffirm whether we are on track – or not.
I connected with a wonderful analogy (or word) that I read recently – “overwhelment”. This perfectly summed up the situation that I found myself experiencing. In an article, Esther Hicks, described “overwhelment” as being about you not being up to speed with what you told the Universe that you want. The Universe is yielding to you as you’re not ready to receive it right now.
This was particularly apt for myself. My ideas and future thinking was not aligned to where I currently was. On a recent trip to the city I literally had the door ripped from my car as I was ready to step out. I was definitely not being present at that moment. I was already thinking about what I needed to do when I returned to the office.
I also believe overwhelment happens if we lose connection to our inner compass – that capacity to resolve in a way which is aligned with our core essence.
We are often presented with things that seem too big to handle or address. I suggest that these situations are designed to challenge us, to awaken us and shift us out of our stupor. The car door was the awakening I had.
At these times, something comes to support us – which is reassuring. By chance, the right book shows up at the right time, a referral from a friend or colleague, an email, or just walking in a bookshop – yes I still love to do this! Real paperback books that I can highlight, scribble in as I read them. The right one seems to fall off the shelf.
For me, it was the book, Daring Greatly, by the resplendent Brene Brown. It had been recommended by a friend two months back, and busyness took over.
This paragraph, in particular, stood out for me as I was reading it over Easter.
“I want to be in the arena. I want to be brave with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our asses kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.”
Dr Brene Brown
Rest might seem like a nice contrast to ‘overwhelment’, but enthusiasm is always chosen over rest. The only things that ever makes you tired or bogs you down is resistance (or choosing to stay in comfort). This was brought to life for me when watching “Running on Empty”, a 30 minute documentary on ABC TV’s Australian Story, 2 weeks back.
The story covered an Australian who has more often than not ‘dared greatly’ and chosen courage over comfort, I was in total admiration of this wonderful young Environmentalist lawyer, Mina Guli, whose passion is to awaken the world to the crisis of water, globally. As a lawyer, turned educationalist on this issue, she has set up a company in Beijing and knew she needed to take her message out to the world. After running a marathon to raise awareness on the issue of how water is used and wasted in Asia, she wanted to know how she could create even greater awareness, globally. A coach challenged her to run more. So Mina undertook to run 100 marathons in 100 days across all five Continents. Now if that is not daring greatly I don’t know what is!.
Life, however, often brings us challenges to overcome along the way. It is how we overcome them that is the differentiator between courage and comfort.Shortly before beginning these marathons, Mina was diagnosed with a slight stress fracture in her leg. Doctors advised her to delay the 100-day challenge, to allow for recovery, Mina determined that this was not possible due to “sponsors’ commitment. The schedule remained. After completing 52 marathons, the soreness increased to such a degree that she was forced to rest, and then walk instead of running. In South Africa, it became impossible to even do this.
BUT – and this is where the inner resolve kicks in. People had heard about the 100-day challenge on social media (it has it positives!). Messages went out, sharing the intention and asking for interested people to run. Many people put their hand up, in South Africa and around the globe. The 100 marathons were achieved with the culmination in New York. Not just by one committed runner in Mina now, but a tribe of several hundreds, who have taken the message on board and raised the visibility. It is now a movement, not just one woman’s deep passion. Giving up was never an option.
A client I am currently mentoring mentioned this as an issue he was currently experiencing. Everything he had planned, seemed to be going off track, or was being stalled for various reasons. I asked him “What is the one thing that you could do for yourself right now, that would best serve you?”. He looked at me for a moment, and responded, “Pause and breathe, and check in with my team. His energy physically shifted. Sometimes we just need to stop and BE.
This inner resolve is a key quality of leaders who Stand Tall. They also know it okay to allow for others to help and support along the way.
In times of ‘overwhelment” this deep inner knowing and alignment and inner resolve are key for leaders in all areas of life.
• Where are you daring greatly?
• Are you choosing courage or comfort at this stage?
• How have you overcome “overwhelment” with deep “inner resolve”?
When faced with Unexpected Obstacles, how do you “Stand Tall”?
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